Guys ask me questions about " making love " and "how to flirt with women " and other such things incessantly .
But the truth of the matter for all of these kind of questions is there is no "dating guru" that can give you any better advice than good old "experience".
But by now you are saying "but how do I get experience when I don't know where to go or how to meet women?"
You do it by meeting women and approaching women any way you can in large droves. It is called serial dating. And when I wrote my first book "How I Got 700 Dates In One Year" it caused a little controversy.
I guess I should elucidate. I am not a cheater and don't believe in cheating. That is not what serial dating is about. Serial dating is about the times you are NOT in a relationship. It is about what you do in between relationships. It is about sanely selecting a mate.
Now I would be the first one to acknowledge that a person who "multiple"¯ or "serial"¯ dates with no aim of ever doing anything else would have at least some major "relating"¯ issues.
But, serial dating applied in the right context is not only not dysfunctional, but it is quite the contrary. Serial dating done to get a better comprehension of the opposite sex, so you can figure out who you are fond of, and what you like, and what kinds of folk like you, is about the most mentally healthy thing you can do.
What do you think most parents told their adolescent sons and daughters?
They said: "Don't get serious with one person, you need to date and meet a lot of girls/guys."¯
Now believe it or not, this teenage advice can also be very good advice for adults.
First of all, most adults never followed their parent's suggestion and dated lots of people. Most people seem to have a pattern of connecting with the first acceptable¯ person who shows them some real interest.
Unfortunately, there is a significant difference between "acceptable¯" and "ideal"¯ and also the fact is that most people ordinarily continue this habit of connecting with the first "acceptable"¯ person who comes along well into adulthood.
We call this "compromising"¯ or "settling"¯ and in the last analysis it leads to unhappiness in relationships, and a failure to understand the opposite sex.
You see there are many kinds of people in the world and, believe it or not, there is someone for everyone. But the problem is you may have to meet a heck of a lot of people to find that one someone.
Another problem is that many people are so confused about life and relationships and people, they don't really have any idea of what kind of personality is a good match for them. They base their ideals off of the Hollywood imagery of what they think they want.
The cure is uncomplicated. When you date and meet lots of people, sooner or later, you figure it out for yourself. It's a natural process. You get comfortable with people, you realize that everyone is different, and that different types of people like different types of people. Eventually you figure out what kind of person you are and what kind of people you get along with best.
And believe it or not, that is all us "dating gurus" have ever done to meet women and attract women . We have just gone out and about and got a lot of experience.
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